21 Ways To Attract Your Husband Sexually

How do I attract my husband sexually is the million dollar question been asked by a lot of women, who are in sexless marriages.Everyone has their own opinion in regard to sex and its role in marriage. Some people believe that sex play a very small part in marriage, as true as that may be, its value cannot be undermined.
In Stefan Ziglar’s Book Why Sex Matters to keep Romance Alive; he states Lack of sex and intimacy result to unhappy marriages and broken homes. It is a common situation to come by couples who got married because they had sexual chemistry. Sex plays a major part in a relationship, however never the foundation of a stable relationship.
People seek for a life partner or fall in love for companionship where romance and sex plays a crucial role. The chemistry must be there to keep the flame burning and sex helps you to know one another better. When your partner gets to know you inside out, he/she learns to pleasure you and hence make you happy. Happiness is a key factor when it comes to a successful marriage.
According to Corey on www.Simplemarriage.net in his article ‘How to Talk About Sex with Your Spouse’ he states that sex is an essential feature of every marriage. There are numerous of benefits of having sex as it contributes a lot in someone’s life and affects your all-around living; from how you dress, handle stress, act to interrelate with others around you. Sex will spice your life up and make your marriage better as well.
When you have been in a marriage for quite some time, some things such as sex begin to begin to become a routine which can conceive boredom. To men, they experience sex as a legitimate physical need where his sexual desire is impacted by what’s around him, however indomitable by biological factors, exclusively the presence of testosterone in his body. Men are physically satisfied, immediately after sexual release.

Here are some ways to attract your husband sexually

1.Change your wardrobe

By change we mean improve your wardrobe and make it sexier and attractive. It is proven that males are visual beings and when you make grand changes like having better new clothes, it will surely make him notice you more.
Sexy does not have to be exposing, you can invest in having clothes that suit your body type and trendy as well.
Go back to the basics, dress attractively, regardless of whether you’ve added weight or not. Change your wardrobe, throw or give away clothes you’ve been wearing for the last ten years.
Check around and see what is trendy for your age. After all, you don’t want to compete with your daughter or nieces by wearing like a teenager, it makes you look tacky by the way.  Add a dash of confidence and see your sex life coming back to life!

2.To Attract, Be Attractive

I know, we cannot all be supermodels with fit, flawless bodies, but each and every one of us can be attractive in our own skin. Men do not marry women because of their looks but it is one of the factors that keep them hooked.
Don’t be comfortable in hanging out with rags just because you are in the house. Don’t be complacent with your looks just because you are now familiar with your spouse. Spruce up, throw out the old t-shirts, and keep your hair tidy. In an article on ‘wiki-how.com’ the author writes… ‘If you want to catch your husband’s eye again, the first thing you need to do is toss this complacency out’.
Don’t dress up for others and dress down for your husband and be expecting some action. For any woman to attract your husband, you have to be attractive. Never be complacent with your looks just because you are now familiar with your spouse. Always dress up for your husband to make him your number one cheerleader.
If your boss surprisingly popped by your place unannounced and you feel embarrassed by what you are wearing, throw it out. Your husband also deserves to see you in good clothes.

3. Be positive

If there is one trait in women that attract men is a woman with a positive outlook. Men can’t help but be attracted to positive women as they always look forward to meeting women who will give them positive re-enforcements.
Being around a positive woman makes any man to feel stronger, sexier in her presence. Any married couple is prone to face the hard knocks of life together, and at this time is when a man needs a positive partner in life to conquer all these.

4.Get Your Groove on

Before you get it on, dance for him or put on some music and dance with him. Practice a few moves.  Join a dancing class without his knowledge and dazzle him with your new sexy moves. if you are not able to, or you are shy, don’t despair thankfully, romantic songs are very slow.
Put on a song you like or a song you both liked when get together and revive your dating days and slow jam your way to an evening of romance. Put on a song you like or a song you both liked when get together and revive your dating days and slow jam your way to an evening of romance.

5. Have Interest in Sex

Society has shown us that are only men who ought or supposed to be interested in sex. Through this, women can subconsciously lose interest in sex and wait for men to pursue them for it.
When you show your husband you are interested in being intimate with him as well, it will make him feel attractive and assure him you are interested in the relationship with him too. Have a few surprises when he is not expecting it and get to know what he likes.
Make cuddling part of your sleeping regimen most nights and that fire will not burn out. As Martin Gaye, aptly puts it in his song ‘Let’s get in on’, If you want to love me, just let it go. Let it go tonight…Loosen up! Put this song and get it on..

6.Wear Sexy Lingerie

Sex is a product that can be marketed. Yes, don’t be shocked. It’s not about the package, it’s how it has been packaged! We all have been conditioned that slim is sexy, but actually comfort and confidence in your body shape is sexier.
Ask a few friends, which color looks best on you so, no matter your body size or shape, there is lingerie out there that will bring out the sexy you, that will attract your husband sexually. No excuses about weight buy one already and sizzle your man.

7. Make sex fun not a duty to fill in

Sex is one of the primary needs for a healthy marriage. Naturally, the man will ask for it more than the woman and every married woman knows is her duty to make her man sexually satisfied. However, women got sexual needs too and in some cases, some women have a higher libido than their husbands.
Although mostly the men will become more sexually active and the women end up disregarding the value of the sex in the relationship. When a woman seem to be enjoying the sex as the man is, it can end up to kill their sex life, hence infidelity. Show your man no matter what you enjoy the sex as well and it’s not just for procreating to you.

8. Be Confident

What most people do not understand is that foreplay begins outside the bedroom. When your husband is making love to you, he is turned on by what he likes most about you; from how you smell, communicate, eat, walk cook and everything else about you.
Every man wish list is to have a confident partner, who have their own opinion and can defend it; are comfortable in their own skin, regardless of their body size.

9. Be Open-minded

The readiness to explore other possibilities, new ideas and such other things is an aspect that men seek in women they want to love. When one is open-minded, they are able to see another point of view and respect it, even if is not that you share.
When it comes to sex, if your husband suggests something new for you to try out, do not be so uptight and do what you have been doing for ages.

10. Do not be predictable

Men have a weakness for women they can’t control or predict. When you are married, this is a different case as you need to create the mystery in your bedroom matters to keep him wanting more. It is not a must for Thursday nights to be sex nights or Friday to be date nights.
Once in a while when he is tired, you can surprise him with a hot massage or prepare him a relaxing bubble bath and wait for him in sexy lingerie when he’s done. When you have a quarrel and perhaps you are the one to say sorry, do not wait for him to apologize, just give him an awesome sexual favor that you know he will appreciate.

11.Steal time

Someone once said some people will talk to you in their free time; others free their time to talk to you. If you really want sex, you have to steal time for it from your regular activities. Don’t make excuses about how you don’t have time for it, you can create it.
Take time out and enjoy life. It may mean cutting out time from something else, like for instance watching television, but the sacrifice shall pay off. But avoid making a timetable for it; otherwise it becomes an errand for your hubby.
Be spontaneous, do it in different places apart from the norm. Rent a hotel room once in a month and do it without interruptions from other family members

12. Be adventurous

Adventurous is the opposite of boring. Nobody wants a life partner who is boring and uptight. Women who are adventurous use a mix of adrenaline and psychology to attract men.
Naturally, men have an automatic system that kicks into gear when they have an adventure with another person. It is easier to creating an immediate and lasting bond with a man by suggesting doing something extreme, adventurous, unusual or even dangerous. It is important first to understand your spouse’s level of adventure.

13. Become his number one fan

It’s a man’s world out there; In Sherry Argov’s book “Why Men Marry Bitches” She states, men control the world, and women control the men. According to her, B.I.T.C.H stands for ‘Babe in Total Control of Herself’.
When a woman takes control of her actions and reactions in a marriage, she becomes encouraging and supportive on all undertakings the husband embarks on. It is human to be selfish and sometimes the husband or the wife can become selfish which can tear the house apart.
However, when a woman supports her husband’s dreams and goals, she opens up the lock for passionate love for her; and with love, a man will do anything for his supportive wife.  In the bible, Proverbs 14:1 says, the wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. This proves that the power is in the woman’s hands.

14. Make him your priority

Everyone has a priority in his/her life. As life goes on, other things check in and become of more importance than your marriage. Priority does not suggest you drop everything for him, hence the importance of self-love first. If your marriage is on the rocks, you cannot be productive on other parts of your life.
Lack of sex is one of the obvious signals that your marriage could be failing. It shows the two of you have drifted apart and have gain interest in other things besides your marriage.
This is the time to go back to the basics and reevaluate on details that brought you together by trying to revive the sparkle that used to be there. If you are spending your free time with your girlfriends or your children or at work, make it time for you to be together. It could start by engaging in his interests.

15. Devote in lifestyle habits that boost your libido

It is so easy for one to get used to a certain comfort zone that could make your lifestyle inactive or dreary. Engaging into certain habits can improve your blood circulation hence your libido. Habits such as exercise, having a healthy diet and managing your stress can help you enjoy sex and furthermore make your partner attracted to you.
Exercise boosts endorphins, which lift your mood and increases your energy. When you have a healthy diet it improves your blood circulation hence higher libido.
According to Irwin Goldstein, author of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, he states that when people are overworked and stressed, it leads to a lousy sex life’. Initiate for a simple vacation for you and your partner once in a while.

16. Teasing Talk

It is healthy to be naughty once in a while and men love it! You can speak softly sweet nothings into his ear at unexpected place or time, telling him all the things you would have him do to you or you would like to do to him. Also can send him a MMS or SMS letting him know he is in for a treat. Make him glow or skip a heart beat when he sees a text or a call from you.

17. Take Charge

Men are not good with hints or clues. If he is not getting it by now initiate the date and take charge. Men are also human beings and have the need to feel desired as well.
Instead of going to a shrink or a date and expect him to open up, plan for a hot sexy steamy date, and you will be surprised how he will be able to open up easily aftermath.

18. Do not make him know your next move

He is your partner, perhaps was your best friend before you started drifting apart. Chances are high you know him best more than his best friend or his siblings.
Possibly you have tried to initiate the “the talk” and it didn’t end well and you have a feeling he is getting way to comfortable with the situation and his guard is all up high.
Now is the time to remember what he may have told you he liked when you were dating and surprise him with it.  It can be sexual matters, a trip, a gadget, shoes or anything. Remember that, men are visual beings and that may revive his feelings for you.

19. Make sex Sacred

When you make sex sacred, you connect more on an emotional level with your partner. It happens by making love to your partner by opening your vulnerable heart to them.
Focus on the beginning of the sex and every moment along the way. Have a more sacred connection with your sexuality and make it mutual by giving and receiving. Having more of it and cultivate a richer connection with this revered part of your spirit by making it an important expression of yourself. This will make your partner completely sexually connected to you and will feel he wants more and more of you.

 20. Begin the new journey together

Routine is a great enemy in every marriage. Marriage is a partnership and it takes both  you and your husband to make it successful. To break the routine, you can start by doing something new together. Experience new things together to rekindle what you had while dating.
In Terri Orbuch’s article ‘Bringing Back the Passion’ he says, trying new things together infuses fun into the marriage. Do something that both  you and your husband will enjoy. It can start by making him feel useful by letting him help you out with something he had promised you sometime back.

21. Spruce up your life 

In other words, get yourself a life. Do something interesting with your life and you will always have something to share when he comes home. Being needy is not attractive.
If you keep your life interesting, his interest in you will not wane. But be careful that when you meet other people out there, you won’t disregard him and in the process detach from him emotionally
Put the above into practice and you will be singing ‘All night long’ with Lionel Richie. Remember, good things take time. So don’t be disappointed over one attempt that fails. Integrate the above as you go along and make them part of your life and you will never suffer a rusty patch again!
NB: However, if there is need for professional help, don’t hesitate to seek it. At times, things run deeper than what meets the eye. Avoid as much as possible washing your dirty linen in public, it only makes things worse. All husbands’ are different and have different tastes or desires. When you have no clue on how to attract your husband sexually, always seek for professional help instead of sharing ideas with your friends or relatives. Exposing your love situations to your loved ones will make him drift away further from you. Marriage is a union between two people not between you, him and your friends.
The fact that you want to be able to attract your husband sexually again is an indication of smoke and where there is smoke, there is fire. So get stoking that fire and it will keep on blazing!
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